Monday, 28 November 2011

Well what a week!

Well I think I shall have to declare the Ring Bash a success.

Did you have fun? So many fabulous ladies and gentlemen! I had a blast!

So many giggles. hugs, tiny mini cupcakes by the wonderful Lula of the Golden Afternoon Tea Company (who was sadly also missing as she had to fly off to Boston at super late notice!), many cocktails - how I love an Aviation.

Despite, me not turning up until 9pm - oh crises you are so mean. I think fun was had by all. Do we love the London Cocktail Club. Yes we do!

I'm so sorry I didn't get to see so many of you. Oh wretched life! Thank you so much for taking the time to come. It means so very much.

(P.S. If you have any photos - I'd love to see them - I'm (as always) annaandtheringlondon {at}

But do not fret there will be more fun soon and I promise I shall be in attendance for all of the evening. So who's free?

I was hoping to reveal something a little special on Friday but time marched on. You shall have to wait a little longer.

And now a little trepidation....

.....I shall have to leave you for a few more days at the very least. 

I will continue to respond to emails and try and get onto twitter but life is conspiring against me.

I'm meant to be having a operation in January but it may be the week we will be moving. I am also due in hospital a few times in December (oh it's almost December!) and we are perhaps going to the in-laws for a wonderful Christmas. 

Where has the time gone? House hunting is a bloody nightmare. Seriously. Bean had a week off and all we did was traipse between estate agents. I promise we are not the fussy ones!

On that note - if you happen to have a nice 2 bed flat to sell (chain free for a nice amount) or a 1 bed flat to rent (for tiny money) in West (ish) London - do drop me an email. 

So my mind is slightly full of square footage and floor plans. I am completely uninspired right now and well that is rather dull for you!

Can I suggest you delve into the archives for your anna fix?

Also if you have any house hunting tips they will be more than gratefully received!!!

Oh and the odd cheerful email or tweet would certainly not go amiss!!


Thursday, 24 November 2011

Ring Bash

Huzzah tis the Ring Bash today!

So excited to see and play with some of the most lovely people in this business we call wedding.

Seriously, I feel so loved by this industry, I want to make it an even more wonderful place.

Perhaps more excitingly it is.....

....the full debut of the Bean!

(He not getting naked or anything though - do not fret!)

He is a little grumpy his new shiny Bean business cards haven't quite materialised yet though!
Luckily his witty repartee will see him through.

Also perhaps even more super excitingly there may be another debut tonight.
(No I'm not pregnant but it certainly is my new baby!)


Yay for the Ring Bash!

There may also be an appearance of a certain pair of shoes.


Oh life.

You are sneaky.

Everything, and I mean everything at once, well that is just naughty.

Sorry for my absence over here.

Life is mean.

Have you missed me?

I can't quite put into words how much I have missed you!

However in other news tomorrow is the Ring Bash - Huzzah!

Cannot wait!

Friday, 11 November 2011


They died,
that we might live.

oh yes weddings

Bean kindly prompted me yesterday that despite being a wedding blogger I hardly ever blog about weddings.

Yikes wedding blogger fail.

They are coming. I promise. Indeed I am trying to write about our wedding too. It is hard. What do you want to hear? Hmm perhaps I should just keep writing? It was suggested that I should be a wedding blogger who doesn't blog weddings and use it as my USP. However I'm not sure that would work! 

Wedding photographers I would love to hear from you. The new blog wants your beautiful images and stories. Brides and grooms I want to hear from you too. The stories. I yearn for the stories. Oh the stories I am soon to tell you!

But just in case you can't wait here is another teaser from the wedding from our friend Voltaire.

Can you see it was actually snowing whilst we were outside (not very much at this point - but oh my we had blizzards!)

Aww Bean and his Hunter.

Much love to the boys. Seriously much love. You boys know why. 

And that's it for me today as I'm off to celebrate 11th November 2011 with a glass of champagne and seventy two short hours of Skyrim.

See you on the other side!

Thursday, 10 November 2011

Ring Bash


The Ring Bash is soon!

Thank you so much for all your enthusiasm. I am so thrilled so many of you want to come. 

I am hopefully organising a few sweet treats for you and I am getting rather excited. Oh there will be fun times!

2 weeks today I imagine I will be somewhat over excited and throwing my wardrobe around with abandon.

(Now here comes the slightly embarrassing bit. Too many of you lovely peeps want to come and the venue is already full! So I'm afraid I have been operating a waiting list for the bash for about a week now. So yes please email me if you would still like to come but I can't guarantee I will be able to put you on the guest list. I am not an arse really - I just didn't anticipate so many lovelies wanting to come! I will tell you now - if you are not on the guest list you ain't coming in - ack next time I will find a bigger venue I promise.)

So what are you wearing?

I'm dying to see if you are going to dress up Fitzrovia style!


Bean has just bought some particularly epic shoes - Men of style you will appreciate them muchly. They are brogue gold dust. As for me do what shall I wear?! I need to at least try and outshine the Bean.

Wednesday, 9 November 2011

Does spam beget spam?

Man I have mad skills in paint.

I'm not talking infect your computer spam. I'm talking infect your brain spam.

I'm still only learning about how to promote myself.

Twitter is an amazing tool. I love it but does anyone else, on occasion, feel completely overwhelmed?*

I get that many twitterfolk have an international audience and yes that there are early and late crowds but does the same post need to be repimped 10 times in one day?

That's not a rhetorical question - it's a question I genuinely want to ask. 

How much is too much?

Is there a "too much"?

I have to admit I do often muscle in on interesting conversations but should there be an etiquette? I try not to over tweet because well I know that you can take over someone's twitter stream and that's just not cricket. Yet my twitter feed does get overloaded by the same tweets every day. I'm not saying they don't deserve to be retweets of retweets but is every tweet golden?

Indeed of late I notice more and more that people muscle in just to promote themselves. Just to get their name out there. They don't seem, to me, to be adding anything to the conversation.

Am I just using twitter incorrectly?

I find it hard to talk myself up especially when I think I know I have good content and can be quite interesting. Deep down I wouldn't have been writing for so long if I didn't think I had something valid to say. So I keep on talking and whether it be about weddings or mental health, I think you want to hear?

(I want to continue to talk about weddings. I haven't quite finished saying what I need to say and I can't wait to show you the new site to talk about weddings more! I have so much to say but I feel a little constricted by this here, anna and the ring, space. (Seriously. Very excited!) I know that sounds crazy but her seems so very personal and I want to try to be a little more detached. I fear I scare people off talking about serious personal feelings. Whilst I will continue to do so perhaps I need to aim for a different angle. Not me, but we?)

Does it matter who you are? Should we grant the wedding "celebrities" a little more leeway because the power and discussion they create with social media is one of the reasons they are so important? How about the newbies should we believe they are naive or do we realise that in most cases they are not - why would they be on twitter otherwise - and are just using their faux genteelness to garner interest? Or is that too harsh a position? I don't know. I am on twitter a lot! First, third and five hundred and seventy third impressions count. (If they are the same tweet I'm pretty sure I know what my impression will be!)

I still like to maintain a little anonymity. I don't even follow anna and the ring on facebook. Why should I expect you to? No matter how many times I say it, I mean it every time. I want a community. I'd love you to follow me facebook it makes me smile. I'd loved to see more of my lurkers comment for they are the lifeblood of every blogger. (I know you are out there - I'm pretty sure you are interested too?) But I am grateful for each and every comment and tweet I recieve. I cannot wait to move to wordpress so I have better control in my comments. I can't wait to respond to your insightfulness properly!

Am I asking too much? Am I in the wrong? Twitter is a free stage for people to talk how ever much they want. I have no desire to curtail freedom of speech. Yet being overwhelmed is becoming exhausting. I really need to stop checking in for a look at 3am! 

I honestly don't know what I think.

Tell me about you and your relationship with twitter and other social media outlets. I am confused!

How do we foster a more supportive and less self-promoting community? Can we? Or am I already in it? Or does ignoring the issues mean that we are just creating a bigger hydra like beast in the future?

As always your views are like gold dust to me. I would very much appreciate your thoughts.

*I understand you can unfollow or mute but I don't think the people who flood my twitter stream are bad but I just wish they would take a breath every so often!

wallpaper wednesday - beware the moon

Oh do I have some beauties for you today.

A darling friend (I hope I can call you that?) is after a fabulous wallpaper for her cloakroom.

Cue Anna getting rather over excited and dashing stright towards her favourite wallpaper maker. (Oh wretched third person). 

Oh yes ladies, Beware The MoonYou simply have to check out my final choice. Oh yes one day that will feature somewhere in my home. It is strangely hypnotic. Each of their wallpapers are available in a myriad of colourways and styles. These just happen to be my most favouritest!

Indeed their tag line seems to be,

"...taking over the world one downstairs loo at a time..."
Thus, I present Ostrich - the bold red and the deep gold. Perfect for a warming impact in a tiny room. I feel the ostrich is perfect for a loo! A majestic monster!

Quantum Foam - Imagine the possibilities with lighting! A 3D tactile fascination. Of course I would require a mirror ball too (where else does one put ones mirror ball?)

Or how about flocked Skulls upon their signature paper - a deliciously dark oil slick. The colours move and entice. I very much want to see this paper in person.

and my favourite the most fabulous delicately flocked slightly exotic images upon a nude base. "She."  Yes I like "She." The matte base to the paper combined with the tactile lady. Yes please. An exquisite addition to your life.

All pictures courtesy of Beware The Moon and fabulous British craftsmanship.

Yes they are exceptionally expensive but for one roll and a lifetime of joy?

Yes please!

Tuesday, 8 November 2011



I know. It's only the start of November but I want it to be Christmas already! Also I was watching a choir programme on BBC2 last night and remembered how much I used to love to sing in a choir.

I know I don't technically believe in any god but that does not stop me from believing in the beauty of classical choral music and obviously wonderful Christmas Carols.

I haven't been to a Carol service in far too long and who doesn't love to sing a little at Christmas?

So does anyone fancy joining me on 3rd December at St Martin in the Fields for an opportunity to learn how to sing the caroling greats like the pros? 

Here is the link. Do you fancy some choral fun before popping off to do some Christmas shopping?

St Martin's is such a wonderful place to sing. As a young lady I got the chance to sing there and what a delicious sound.

Come all ye faithful?

(My attempt at Christmassy colours!)

Tuesday Shoesday

I've talked about the talent that is Nicholas Kirkwood before.

These are some seriously high heels.
Hello epic heels. A little confused but I am sure that they be epic!

These could be my most favourite heels of all time. I love the faux tortoiseshell toblerone shaped heel.

The flash of metallic pink on the purple suede. Swoon. Imagine seeing these walk down the aisle. Slightly like the hind legs of a rabbit when escaping from a predator.

How about the ones on the right as your something blue? Although I do slightly adore the nude with the rose gold accents. Yes please.
Although these pretty almost filigree pretties are slightly lower. I would adore to have these peeking out from under my dress.

So what do you think?

Kirkwood or Kirkwouldn't?

Monday, 7 November 2011

mental health monday - perhaps some positivity

My last session with the Brain Man was interesting.

I think I've finally realised that I cannot control the external influences which are affecting my recovery. The external messages may be right (they aren't for the most part - why are people so cruel?) but I don't actually have to listen. I understand you have to be pretty insecure yourself to treat another human being so monstrously but that is no excuse.*

The internal voices are still strong. However my anxiety is not internal. (Depression yes it probably is but that's another story). I am learning to isolate my strong anxiety and remind myself it is a separate entity. For me it is not even my own voice. How very telling! 

Indeed the Brain Man has given me the rather thrilling idea of engaging with my anxiety and self doubt. Telling it that I will talk to it but to my timetable. No more will I lie awake at 3am and listen to all those hideous things I have previously told myself. I will tell it to fuck off and that I will listen and respond at 10am. A civilised hour where we both have a level play field. Tonight is my first attempt. I'll let you know how I get on.

So say hello to positive Anna. Oh she's coming and she will be triumphant!

I think this be the last time I was truly happy. (What sad admission but true nonetheless)

Turning 30 does not scare me (save financially) but I would be lying if I said I don't oft think about what could have been. I was bright, inquisitive and happy. I could have been a great member of society yet I feel I have contributed nothing. This stops now. I want to leave a legacy. 

I am not going to allow certain people drive me away from my happiness. Whether they be online or not. I shall not be used and abused anymore.

Haters can hate. I'm done.

I am not weak for listening to them but I am never going to be strong if I continue to do so.

I am going to be me but what I always imagined I could be on a very good day.** I have the capacity to be exceptional. (I think!) 

Today is Marie Curie's birthday. She was my inspiration as a child. I thought she was one of the strongest most fabulous woman I had ever read about. She was who I wanted to be. She is a role model. She is who I still want to be. I want to be a role model. Crippling self doubt has no place here anymore. I want to show people things can get better after the darkest of days. Oh, the sun is starting to shine.


I will still talk about mental health issues because I do think that talking about them can be a very positive step. Stigma is a bitch. I refuse to accept that just because I do not have a media friendly disease I should be shunned. I am not proud to say I have depression or anxiety. Gosh, of course not. The media does paint certain mental illness as the new black. Yet there is a difference between being allowed to talk about being ill (and getting better and trying to help people who are in a similar situation) and saying "woe is me." Woe is not me. 

Who are you role models? (You can say me - of course!) What do you take from them? Where do you find your strength?

As always I love to hear from you. I know I write a lot and I'm not exactly Sartre but I really do benefit from your kind and intelligent words. I have to be honest with you. One of my worst traits is to assume I can mind read. When I don't hear from you I assume I'm an idiot and that I am worthless. Yes I know having an external locus for my self esteem is not wise but it's all I've got right now so help a sister out! Pressure much?! Sorry the honesty is good for me right now.

*Also playing the naive girl because you know I will be generous and kind is an extremely cynical and almost evil game to play. I hope you are proud of yourself. 
**I may even start taking Berocca!

Friday, 4 November 2011

are you ready to be gloved?

Some weekend fun for the ladies me thinks. As the weather turns colder thoughts turn to my fingers and how they need to be kept toasty. I had a serious scare the other day when I was doing my usual wild gesticulating and the engagement ring decided to fling off my finger and onto the evil that is the platform at Victoria. So as I wait for them to be emsmallened (such a cromulent word!) I have been looking for pretty gloves! 

So enjoy my little spend vs spree delve into the world of gloveage. 
(I have a secret - asos are having a sale right now on most gloves!)

A rather sweet offering from asos for £9.50. Sure they are a Kate Spade knock off. But still cute.

How about a pom pom or two? Asos for £5.50 and French Connection for £20.

How about a direct spend vs spree?

The first are asos for £28 (actual leather!) and the second pair are MCQ for £125. I am rather in love with the asos ones although i do prefer the cut of McQueen ones.

Leopard spend vs spree? 

The first are asos for £14 and are real leather too. Or perhaps some seriously sexy red leopard driving gloves from Agent Provocateur for only £250.

And because I can't stop thinking about these and how fabulous they would be at a fabulous winter wedding. Say hello to the epic Lanvins. The black pair are £870 and the nude only £1,110. I want thee.

Lanvin Lanvin 

Finally because I couldn't possibly be chic every day. How about these? I managed to snap them up for £6 but I believe they are £9.50 right now! Yes I adore them. (They have such a sweet almost fleece lining. Super toasty and make little children smile.)

Yes I should be a hand model!

Which is your favourite?

Will I see you at Book Club tomorrow?

What are you up to this weekend? I'm off to one my oldest friend, Giggler's birthday party too. A good weekend.

(Hello Giggler - I just told her about the blog!)

Wednesday, 2 November 2011

How to be a Woman - an APW Book Club

****Warning Warning****
There is a very strong word used in the last main paragraph of the main text - I use it to illustrate my point.

So facebook is making me sad and not allowing me to comment as anna and the ring. I like my online persona, it's warm and safe.

I'm not saying that people are out to get me - but you just don't know who's out there.

So I can't comment on the lovely A Practical Wedding facebook pages anymore. Sad face.

Anyhoo, this lovely weekend there is to be a lovely book club with "How to be a Woman*" as it's main attraction.

We should all be meeting at Noon in the Defector's Weld in Shepherd's Bush. 

When - 5th November
Where - Defector's Weld - which is right on the corner on the North West side of Shepherd's Bush Green.
Time - Noon
What - How to be a Woman - Caitlin Moran

Shepherd's Bush is quite easy to get to. Shepherd's Bush itself on the Central line (oh and the train if you're coming from Clapham Junction or from the north) and closer to the pub (almost!) there is Shepherd's Bush Market which is on the Hammersmith and City line. 

It's nice and easy to get to as the central line is working as normal and the western arm of the Hammersmith and City line is apparently going to be working well (although you know the tube!). There are also a myriad of buses which stop in and around Shepherd's Bush Green.

So will I see you on Saturday? 

Here comes the "bad" word. (Although if you have read the book I'm pretty sure you're going to be okay with me saying it?)

I guess I should knuckle down and read the book properly. I'm not going to lie I'm not expecting to enjoy it. So that's partly why I want to discuss it. I guess I have old lady views and just because you say the word "cunt" you aren't cool or a feminist. I'm not automatically going to love the book - but that's not a bad thing - there are already plenty of fan girls for Caitlin Moran. I better get reading, right? (And stop sounding like Mary Whitehouse!)

*Should I capitalise?

Tuesday, 1 November 2011

oh the lustre

Hold on to your cornflakes and get ready to want to spray each of them individually.

Thanks to the ever wonderful Poppytalk (via Craft via Trendland) I am now obsessed with wanting to buy the edible lustre*, Esslack from The Deli Garage, for my food!

I just can't get over how wonderful this golden apple looks! (I hope a certain other Golden Apple sees this!)

There are other colours including the silver but I cannot divert my mind away from the possibilities with the gold.

Gold embodies decadence and it is something I want to bring to the party at Christmas.

I want to spray it onto everything (nearly). I've got to admit the idea of a golden steak slightly freaks me out.

Yet, golden asparagus tips, golden quails eggs, golden popcorn, golden jelly, golden cocktails (I wonder how it might work upon a liquid?), golden lemon meringue cupcakes (my speciality - so delciously tart!) and perhaps the most decadent of all golden seafood - perhaps the claws of a lobster?

It strikes me that it is more that just the scary spray painted pine cones of yore - the fact that it is edible just brought the whole dining experience to another sensory level. 

Oh yes - I am a little excited! 

What do you think? Yay or Nay?

*If it's made by Germans I really do assume it is not really a hideous carcinogen in disguise!

tuesday shoes - prepare to hate me for bring these to your attention

Christian Louboutin 
Christian Louboutin via Net-A-Porter

I know, I know.

1. They cost more than most people's mortgage.
2. The heels sort of look like cigarettes (to me)
3. They are 5.5 inches high.

I get it. They are bad for me and I was never one to go for the bad boy.*

I still want. 

I won't ever have - but that's ok. I've got Bean to reach the high things.

*It never interested me. I was always looking for someone who would care.


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