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I missed my birthday! I am rather happy that I share my birthday with Charles Darwin, Abe Lincoln and Jesse Spencer (Oh Billy!). (It makes me feel ever more intellectual!)

I did want to to post on Saturday but was rather too busy having fun and wearing my wedding dress, (I promise I am not a real crazy person.)

For those that knew, thank you for your well wishes, gorgeous presents and most importantly your company (yes I was a little sad that so many lovelies live sooooo far away!). I wish I could have spent more time with you all. I felt like a real bride with no time to speak with all the wonderful people that made it so special. I am one lucky girl! Gorgeous girls (and boys) from the blog world, friends I have no seen in years, dear, old friends and my wonderful family. I want to be selfish and have all my friends together every week. (Now all I need is a fleet of private jets!)

I have to say thank you to Lisa, Lucy and Tarah for being amazingly wonderful and coming to photograph everyone and everything! (Pictures to follow if you are interested, darlings?)

Oh yes, obviously thank you Bean. You looked so dapper in your suit. You make me so happy. (Also well done for remembering it was my birthday, after a little prompting, I know the morning isn't your best time!!)

So what did you get up to this weekend? Oh yes and Happy Valentine's Day. I usually care not but I am totally loved up and surrounded by flowers!!!

help a sister out xxxx

Just a heads up that I won't be around for a couple of weeks (please no tears) but before I go....

Now I know I only have a small space in the wedding world (at the moment *wink* *wink* *nudge* *nudge*) but I would love for you to do something for me.

Sarah, of San Francisco Budget Wedding, is a finalist in a competition to win her wedding photography from Thirty Something Bride by Carissa of Dulce Photography. Her story is one of love, maybe a little fate, a little sadness but ultimately joy. It would make me so happy if she could take a moment to help a lady out.

Please kindly VOTE HERE

I also heart Louise from Thirty Something Bride. She is all shades of awesome! Her unfake wedding series makes me very happy.

If you want to know a little more, you can read a little more below, 

I humbly offer you,

SARAH & TONY

(Sarah, I hope you know I think I have found a friend for life in you)

She is so eloquently wise. I mean just read her beautiful words below.

"What is your definition of “marriage?”

I think of marriage as a romantic partnership and the most intimate family.  We fill many roles within our relationship:  lovers, partners, best friend, coparent, sounding board, life raft and sometimes cattle prod.  While many other people can also fill some of these needs, only one person in my life has ever managed to be all of them, and that person is Tony.  A few months ago, a friend of mine asked me to write something about what a wedding means to me, and this is what I had to say: In my mind, except in the strictest legal sense, we already are married.  We live together; we love one another.  He is a wonderful stepfather to my two children, who adore him.  We split up the chores and have our disagreements.   Under these circumstances, what does the wedding mean to me? To me, it is an end to limbo and the beginning of the next phase of my life.  I realize this sounds unromantic, but, you see, I don’t think a wedding is particularly romantic.  Our relationship is romantic.  Romance was our Meet Cute, when a 17-year-old Tony shyly and slyly waited until I was standing alone in an empty hallway to introduce himself to my 14-year-old self.  Romance was our reunion some 22 years later, when we spent four hours sitting on the beach with our foreheads pressed together holding hands, smiling and kissing.  Romance was the proposal, when he sat me down on our rumpled bed and told me that I was all the birthday present he wanted.  Romance was the first time he whispered against my ear (I could feel his smile) how much he loves my children.  But the wedding is about fun, family, and yes, work.  “When is Tony going to be my step-dad?” my daughter asked me the other day. “At the wedding next summer, it will be legal, but he’s already your step-dad,” I told her.  “But not for real,” she told me. “Not until the wedding.”  As usually happens when Bean and I talk, her plain wisdom struck me as infinitely true.  The wedding, then, is when our family becomes Real in that same way that the Velveteen Rabbit became Real.  Our marriage, though, it began as soon as we gave ourselves into each other’s safe keeping.

oh february, you are killing me

bye bye Phoebe and Rae*

Such gorgeousness. I will miss you. (I really wanted to keep them. They are special ones.)

Alas life must go on. (Sob).

You may have heard that I am without job currently. So finances are incredibly tight. So with sadness we must give up our little flat and move back to my parent's home (assuming we can re-let - the flat is uber cute and in West London if anyone is looking?!). This has all happened in the past 24 hours so things are a little crazy. 

My parents want to to move to France as soon as possible but the market is rubbish and if we can cover their mortgage (far less than our rent!) they can move sooner rather than later. Which is what they really want and they deserve to retire and enjoy themselves. (Also I totally want to be able to visit them and drink wine and dance in the pretty garden!).

So Bean is going to pick up a van so we can move our big furniture this weekend. Why do we have so much stuff? I must edit, edit, edit!

Also just because I don't have a job doesn't mean that I am not busy. I have old book projects which are still open and need to be submitted before the end of February. (Must focus - yet they are so dull!). I have job assessment days next week (completely scary I have no idea what to expect).** I also have other meetings about career and the life. Also there are a few other exciting events next week which I know I could miss but I really don't want to! Also, also, also.

Oh yes, then we are having a little party! So whilst moving I need to practise baking (because I want to wow my lovely guests), help prettify my parent's home, clean and tidy for the house guests and maybe work out how to do a photobooth without a super camera***

To some of you I am sure this is nothing but for me, crap monkeys! Any help or thoughts, yes please!

*I completely did not think about the Friends reference until Bean mentioned, I promise.

**Any thoughts about these scary tests?!

***Totally could do with help here - I don't need people to see the prints on the day. I just want people to go off and have a crazy, cool space to play!

a hypothetical question?

So if a hypothetical girl hypothetically would like to start a new blog should she?

I may know of a girl who increasingly loves writing* but really wants to have a personal blog separate from a more "professional" blog.**

Her other quandary is whether she should take her own blog persona with her or start afresh and anonymously?

Would you be interested in another wedding/life/love/marriage blog or is the market saturated already?

Your views would be gratefully solicited and of much interest to a certain hypothetical girl.

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*ack a certain mother telling a certain girl she had a terrible writing style and should not be allowed to write. (Not that this girl thinks she has a good writing style, she just seems to enjoy the whole writing caboodle.)

**she recently changed jobs and wants a new challenge (she fears it may still be wedding related - wordy but pretty?)

aww, i heart Bean

Check out my boy on the front page of staggered!

The lovely boys at staggered asked him to talk about his wedding attire and general manliness!

Great pieces boys!

Let's all give three cheers to my favourite man!

(Also I know he would love your comments!)