Wednesday, 27 October 2010

clever girl (but not in the scary JP way)

As if my ovaries weren't already slightly excited.*

I now seriously want a clever little girl like Bean.

I asked this question about my father.

Her advice has got me thinking. I think I should talk to my father before deciding for him. I should at least give him the option of declining or accepting.

What do you think?

Gosh he looked like a bruiser!


*I got to play with my almost 2nd cousin (Bean's cousin's baby)

8 comments:

  1. TWP answered your question in the comments before school this morning. Not sure if you saw it.

    She said he can participate if he promises to be nice and not say things that will hurt your feelings, which seemed like a fair compromise to me.

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  2. I think the wise words of the TWP sum it up really...

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  3. I say, go with your gut. If what TWP makes sense and feels right, then don't let him walk you down the aisle. Just remember, it should be your choice, not his.
    And, personally, I think getting him to promise any sort of proper behavior is just setting yourself up for disaster. Pessimistic? Maybe. But if you ask someone to act a certain way, you'll be counting on it, and if it doesn't work out like you wanted, it may put a damper on your day. Trust me, we've been there and done that with the husband's mom.
    If you're uneasy about his behavior in any way, be cautious about how much you involve him. Not to say that you shouldn't give him the benefit of the doubt, but you know him better than we do, so stick with the safest bet. Proceed with caution, as the street signs say.

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  4. Anna.. I have a similar situation going on..and I know how hard it is when it means something to you who walks you down the aisle. I loved TWP's answer and I think asking would definitely be a good idea...it would at least give you an opportunity to state your concerns...and if he loses it or isn't happy that you even had to ask, then that might tell you all you need to know right there. Good luck.

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  5. ha ha oh man. I just just how you feel (well about Ryan not Bean, you know what I mean)! we have such excited ovaries!!!!

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  6. i loved twp's answer because it was so refreshingly honest - an answer only a tiny person would give. but i don't think you can just cut your dad out without sitting down with him and getting everything out. i'm a firm believer in not letting things left unsaid. i think it'll be best for both of you.

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  7. Hmmm
    I seriously considering walking down the aisle on my own, my friend did it recently. The prospect sounds scary but I think I would rather do that than feel compromised.
    I think you have to go for the option that gives you the control. You have make the decision and tell your father what YOU want. Easier said than done I know x

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  8. Oh my word, if I have daughters I want them to be exactly like TWP! What a sweet, smart girl.
    I agree with her answer. You shouldn't have to worry about someone (anyone) saying mean things about you on your wedding day. That being said, if it will bother YOU not to ask him, if it might be something YOU later regret, then by all means speak to him about it and ask him. If you decide that you'd rather walk down the aisle alone I know you will be just fine, heels and all! It is a tough decision I know, but don't let anyone put a damper on your day.

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So, I really love all the sweet and/or informative comments that you lovelies leave. Yet if you feel the need to be unnecessarily rude or offensive I will delete your comment and not feel bad about it. So just be constructive alright! Hugs to all you wondrous others.

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