I just read a story from the far more appropriate publication the
Tory sorry Telegraph about a couple who were set on having the bells of their chosen church ring on their wedding day. However when speaking to the vicar they found they had not pealed for years. So they set about travelling 340 mile round trip to Wales from London to clean and restore said bells. I find this story so sweet that I am prepared to look over the fact they would not feel their day complete without bells. Indeed I think it is more than sweet, admirable and a beautiful gesture to the village in which they will be wed. A gesture which will hopefully be appreciated by many others in the future. (Assuming people enjoy the sound of the bells, I cannot say I am a campanologist and do not particular enjoy the attempts of our local church's team but that is a completely different issue!)
The piece really made me think what I am doing for the community in which I am to be married. Yes I am paying money to be wed in a certain place and it will mostly (if not entirely) take place indoors away from "the locals" but should I be contributing something to the community?
Most of my suppliers are local (ish) and relatively small so we are helping the economy slightly but how does one actually contribute to a community in which they do not live? Without living there how do I know where I could really help? Indeed do I need to thank the community for allowing to be wed in their tiny village? Am I thinking of myself so highly that I do need to thank them?
I have done the usual thing of contacting a hospice hoping to donate flowers after the day. What else can I offer. Time is precious and a round trip could take over 12 hours by car. Beyond offering leftover food to the local homeless shelter or somewhere equivalent what can I do?
Is my apathy a sign that I need to get involved? Or is it correctly placed in the fact I am paying for a service and that is all I need? Would it be any different if I were to be married in London? Apart from the ideas I have already suggested I fear I would show even less interest.*
What do you think? Are you contributing in a special way to the place in which you will be married? Or is bringing your business to a certain locale enough?
* I like to think I work hard for my community.